Wednesday, March 2, 2016

forgiveness . . .

Any one who knows me at all . . . knows that I love quotes, and I love when I find quotes on labels or packages, written in unexpected places, or in this case on a tea bag.  I have posted photos of these quotes before.  I honestly think there should be fun, positive quotes put on  more items . . . maybe not even all fun and positive.  A good sarcastic quote on the right item might not be a bad idea.
That being said . . . this is the quote that I found today!
Forgiveness . . . . what a difference that has made in my life.  Also one of those topics that I am very passionate about . . . so let me rant for a moment.
Forgiveness . . .  the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.

Forgive and it changes your life.  I will not go so far as to call myself a victim, but I have been hurt in the past and hung onto that hurt and blame for way too long.  I can remember the exact moment when I realized I could forgive everything . . . it changed my life and gave me complete control over the situation.  It took away all the negative energy that was consuming my life. 
It doesn't make what happens right . . . or what people do to hurt you right.  That is for them to deal with, but for me . . .  it took a weight off of me, it gave me back my happiness, it put me back on the road to being me.  And I think I am the best me that I have ever been.  I can't say that I wouldn't change things if I could, but I can say that by getting through it all and choosing forgiveness . . . I am a way stronger person and there is nothing about that situation that can hurt me anymore.  

That being said . . . onto something not so serious.
A little more green . . . because it is March and it is my favorite color!
. . . and a little advice for today!


  1. Your rant is well-taken. Isn't it sad that it sometimes takes so long for us to realize that forgiveness will lessen the load. I think that when there is a big hurt, there are steps or stages that you go through, like the stages of grief. Only once you learn to forgive, it gets easier, or it should. I've gone through that process, and you're right, it is such a relief when you come out the other side of it. The hardest can be forgiving yourself. The secretary in our middle school made a mistake on Monday and accidently attached the file of student report cards in an e-mail blast to the parents at her school. Not a good thing as you can understand. The parents, for the most part were very forgiving, e-mailing the administration their support (yes, there were one or two who wanted her head!), and the administration realized that it was a mistake, a bad mistake, but not intentional. She, however, is having such a hard time forgiving herself for it. She will work at it though, and we will help boost her up.

    1. I agree that it is a process . . .
      Tell your co-worker to ask herself if it will matter 6 months from now . . . and to let it go. I know that isn't always easy, but no one was hurt, it won't matter later, and after something else happens it will be forgotten. Although I understand her being upset.
      Both of you have a great day!